The ‘neurotic needs’ are classified into three broad categories based on how one relates “oneself to others”.

Dr. Horney sets the term ‘Neurotic’ on a continuum of degrees of those found in almost everyone, the more or less normal, thorough various transitions of degree to those unquestionably neurotic.

Therefore, some caution should be used in calling all minor maladjustment and symptoms ‘neurotic’ even if they have a common cause or relation.

The term neurosis or neurotic is used without this being a value judgment.

In our assessment of the purpose and technique Of Self-Analysis this takes on a similar meaning when applied to differs from work with a therapist, in that it does not have a sharply defined focus, or even a goal of a particular symptom change or any limitation of time.
This does not mean it has no goals or purpose, only it shifts the obligation of exploring your whole personality to reveal a broader goals, those of changing your core self, in order to build a better life. This can be combined with those other theapies that do not demand overiding your present beilf system with a ready made one that must be totally accepted. That works for some but is not self-analysis.

The purpose in self-analysis is to open the way to self-understanding. Take Willful control and change those aspects of your self indentifiable as neurotic, and self defeating or ones that put you in conflict with others your family or society. It is intended to be used by your self to explain yourself and to offer a way to come to grips with whatever your conlicts or problelms appear to to connect to. IN offering this open view point it is to be understtod you are the one to carry it out. Others are not able to change you inside and what support they can provide offer is not going remove any neurotic suffering you have woven into your personality.

going offer better or alternative ways to understand life events in respect to how you handle them.

And also extend this better understanding to your personal relations with others. The final step to understand others better is same as the final steo to know yourself. Understanding is always ongoing and changing and not a finished product.

The Core — ‘Basic self-others Directional Need System, ‘Every Human has, at times impulses to move himself in directions that could carry beyond useful coping to meanings ‘Neurotic.’ or reactions over-determined and often carring with it some feature not appripriate or useful.

Core is a function that has the power to move or reset how a person positions or relates oneself to others.

 towards others.

 away from others.

 against others.

 against self.

Each ‘movement event’ has a coping function. They assert in one sequence or another as a person probes for the best fit for the situation. Best fit not always the long-term best selection. As evidenced in repetition of thinking, feelings and behaviors, not in the best interest of the person. The cultivated recognition of what certain events do to the self-other position. This is one of several keys to uncovering and understanding what goes wrong or right in the adaptive, adjusting, coping paths to our actual behaviors. Events potentially leading to a perception of failed therapy. This partly explains and cautions you to the fact just knowing things do not always result in corrected behaviors.
Important is that the practice of the perception such self-other effects can serve as flags to warn you what a particular event or interaction has connected to thing ‘neurotic’ in us, wither we care to admit it or not. Detecting these ‘movement powers’ within own selves will only happen if one looks for them. Logically they are part of the minimal theoretic you need to analyze yourself. In a therapist conducted analysis this responsibility is shifted to the therapist, who job is to help you find and connects such things and then by his own method, and terms offer insight, new scripts, re-learning as to be of benefit for you. What he calls these equivalents it is not the point, it that recognition demands changes. Changes meet with resistances. Any significant resistance, invariability connects to or crosses over into or controls, the some aspect of the self-other core nature, to others, from others, against self,
There is no quick and easy way to identify these. They of course become recognizable when they recur over time show intensity or self-destructive results. Why an over time systematic self-analysis (just as in a therapist conducted one) by their recurrence , their compulsive, inhibiting powers or acting out.

Often associated with the shifting of self-other positioning shifting negatively are aware feelings, that something undesired, painful (in the psychological sense) vaguely discomfort, uneasiness, irritation, distrust. Most also carry some of feeling of hostility to others, to self, in some cases both alternating rapidly. This is not a command for you to have such feelings, it is as guide for you to recognize them when you see them.

does to us in those event we precieve as neurotic in ourselves

Such functional events are only called ‘neurotic’ when they move a person to dysfunctional or maladaptive modes of relationship with others. Which then are such that internalization then causes an overshooting of its purpose, failed satisfaction or self-security goals. As copeing mecanisms fail as or cause distorted relationships to others. As Anxiety appears and increases it enters awarenenss by causing mood change, hostility or as last resort primitive fight or flight reactions.

1] toward others.

These ‘toward others’ as a neurotic determined need, are those that cause an individuals to excessively seek affirmation and acceptance from others and are motivators behind dependant clinging. As a function, it seeks out the finding f approval and love. Human relations normal and human relations ‘neurotic’ revolve about satisfying this need and the avoiding the unpleasant results when it fails.

2.] away from others

Needs neurotic set, that move you away from others.

These neurotic needs carry narcissistic connections and reactions to the hopeless, loveless and empty object world. Hostility and antisocial behavior are justified emotionally.

These individuals are described as cold, indifferent, aloof, and express criticism and hostility easily.

3.] against others

Needs neurotic set that move you against others.

These neurotic needs (or drives) result in basic hostility asserting in a ready to fight back mode. They often have a low threshold for frustration. The mode of hostility and the need to control other people move together. These individuals are described as difficult, domineering, and unkind. This is as if the individual is living out in the present the infantile core of Basic Hostility and now finds in the adult life opportunities to express anger and hostility. Some maintain a surface, logical and polished and can justify any excesses glibly.

4.] → against self

Self sabotage, self defeating, self hatred are all common human trends, that most would argree are Neurotic. A person often from family tradition and cultural pressue deny any such things being in himself, frequently an analysis even a superficial one will bring such things into the analytic content as it proceeds, and must be deal with just as honestly as any other content. Sometimes such denied or rejected content will intrude into ones dreams. Such dreams often seem crazy and meaningless at first attempts at relating to them leads to nowhere. For this reason, it is useful to write dreams down and associate to the dream content much later, weeks or months when something related content or new dreams brings them to mind and offers new meaning.

Well-adjusted individuals have balanced need and movement power settings.

Well-adjusted individuals mix balanced, the others/self relations, causing little anxiety, is effective for coping. Under sufficient stress, the coping process may fail and replacement modes of coping are more primitive, automatic and defensive then assert.

Well-adjusted individuals, thus not mind sick or severely neurotic, utilize all three of these strategies, but can correctly shift focus as to where and how to relate themselves, depending on what they perceive to be the actual situation, thus correctly.

What then makes these inclinations or coping strategies neurotic?

According to Horney, it is the overuse of one or more of these self-others interpersonal modes. Neurotic people tend to utilize excessively two or more of these ways of coping, at the same time that reinforces or exaggerates results, as to end up in creating conflict, turmoil, and confusion.

And at the same time producing certain behavioral dysfunctions, symptoms or acting out behaviors. Which are also the things that motivate persons to seek help.

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Am I on track here? Is there an order one should follow?

Why does what you present seem so outdated?

Answers,

In reverse order:

True, much appears outdated because is a leap backward in both time and practices. To Freud and Psychoanalysis, Szondi and his Gene theory, his projective test, The Szondi Test, his brilliant student, Susan Deri who saw what Szondi missed. Then I reach to proto-feminist psychoanalyst of the 1930’s-40’s, Karen Horney, for why and how you should conduct a no-nonsense psychoanalysis of your self, needing only a minimal character map. One that listed less than a dozen needs you could expect to recognize when and if you encounter them as you proceed to self-analyze.

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